When stupid starts to define you

Definition of stupid: 

  • lacking intelligence or common sense.
  • slow of mind.
  • given to unintelligent decisions or acts.
  • acting in an unintelligent or careless manner.
  •  lacking intelligence or reason.

We make certain risky choices because we don’t know better, sometimes we pick the easier choice because we lack patient or  the will power to forge ahead. On rare occasions we make a choice simply because we are overwhelmed  or confused by the wealth of information available to us. like a soiled nappy trails a baby, our choices shadow our steps into the future.


There are other times when our life choices seem stupid to others, it just doesn’t make sense to them. Labels are quickly brandished without caution, overtime this idea of who you’re presumed to be is affirmed in their minds by the fact that one never departs from one’s ideology.

In an age were rapid answers, rapid friendships, rapid gratification, rapid growth, rapid, rapid, rapid anything is considered the norm; an age were aggression or garrulousness are synonyms for assertive, and gossip is considered keeping abreast of things; one must not be afraid to be stupid. 

We frown at Trumps ideas but in the same vein we pull down another to achieve our aims, after all we want it now don’t we? We vent our frustration for not getting things exactly the way we want it on another by boxing others off and labelling them, perhaps a reflection of the same labels firmly sewn unto the hems of our heart, brains and minds in extra large sizes. Life on the fast lane is bound to have casualties and it might as well be them. It has absolutely nothing to do with your speeding gauge and ignorance of the other road users.


In an age where everyone wants to belong, same huge eyebrows (waxed, trimmed and pencilled in within an inch of it’s original life), same shoes, same clothes, same pout, same laughter and even lashes. It’s okay to be stupid if stupid means you stay true to you. It doesn’t mean blind loyalty to your flaws, No. In the same way one doesn’t wash out a stain with the hope of bleaching the entire fabric or wash a dirty dish with the hope of rinsing the decoration/design off, we must treat our flaws.

It’s okay to be stupid, in a world where up is down and fair is subject to who wins the stakes. It’s okay to be stupid in a world where everyone stands for everything like footballers defending the goalpost against a penalty except when the ball comes everyone finds a good corner to hide.

It’s okay to be stupid, I suspect it’s the new synonym for individuality.

Should I be relocating?

Moving home original image from http://www.spaook.com/

The choice of the UK as home was not trivial (as you know I love me my comfort zone), we considered several factors and one was choosing the best place for our long term goals. Doing a thorough research of your destination is essential, however a 100% certainty of what lies ahead is impossible. Trust me I know this from personal experience.

People relocate for several different reasons; a prominent one is the quest for a better life. Although a good reason to relocate it is a recipe for disaster with no set plans in place. When making plans you must consider that preference will always be given to citizens first and certain benefits would be out of reach. The resulting effect is a reduced number of jobs and stiff competition amongst migrants.  Keep in mind that once you move your bills start building in your new home, it doesn’t wait for you to become successful. A great deal of time might elapse before you become comfortable and disregarding these factors might mean you become stuck in a runt, tempted to take up a dubious lifestyle.

Secondly, people relocate to study or work. Attaining a qualification or higher degree has become increasingly popular; the degree gets better credence when attained abroad. Changes in immigration policies and cost of living in the UK makes getting an online degree wiser. Relocating to start a new job might seem like a no brainer however cost of living, long term career plans and personal growth opportunities should be considered.

Relocating to escape physical danger or natural disaster is another reason; under this circumstance having a plan other than surviving is commendable. Settling into your new surroundings is “somewhat” easier with support from the country, but creating a solid foundation for your new home depends solely on you. Take free courses/trainings to help you integrate and carve out a career niche for yourself. Becoming an economic burden or nuisance taints the characters of other immigrants for posterity’s sake behave better.

Whatever your reasons for relocating do research the following questions:

  1. How long am I relocating for?
  2. What are the immigration laws at my desired destination?
  3. Is this relocation to fulfil a dream destination?
  4. Is the move affordable?
  5. Is my present residence hindering my opportunity for growth?
  6. What are my career opportunities/options?
  7. What responsibilities do you have currently, e.g. family would they move with you? If they stay how you would take care of them?

Before you leave home, ensure you have your facts right; least you trade your golden goose before it lays the egg. Fear shouldn’t stop you from moving, don’t just join the bandwagon make the move count for you.