The hagglers creed

Thou shall attempt to get the best deals, at the best affordable price at all times.

As a devout haggler, thou must learn to shop patiently and practice the act of delayed gratification.

Thou shall uphold the hagglers’ code, tis thy skill to live within your means.


As a child I looked forward to going shopping with ma, it meant I got to pick what snack or fruit I wanted.  The experience however was tainted by the number of hours we ended up spending. It wasn’t because ma was slow quite the opposite, time was spent haggling. For every major shopping Ma had a list; we negotiated the market from the entrance closest to the essential things on it. This was done to ensure we used our best haggling skills before exhaustion set in.  So the stage is set, off we go to the first stall:

Trader: good afternoon o aunty

 Ma: Nne/Nna good afternoon. Ego ne ka I na ere tomatoes’ gi a? (How much is your tomatoes?)

Trader: ofu aka bu N50.00 (a single pile N50.00)

 Ma: ha! nna price gi gbako te kwa.  Ele kwa N20.00? (My dear, your price is high can you sell them for N20.00) initially, ma’s first price option often shocked me.

 Trader: mba o, (chuckles) last price bu N30.00 (no final price is N30.00)

 Ma: I ga ele ibuo N50.00 kamu gbolu ino? (Can you sell 2 for N50.00, I will take 4 bunches)

 Trader: ngwa nu ka obulu na ere kwa nke ta. (Ok, I will sell to you just so I can record a sale) 

That was the deal closed, the process is repeated for every single item. Some traders didn’t take kindly to the haggling and we left hastily from such stalls. When I got older it became my turn to go shopping and I felt immensely proud every time I came home and ma beamed with smiles at the good deals I struck. And when I struck out she would say “they saw you coming” not in those same words, but you get the general idea.

With few open markets where I live now, it would seem my haggling skills have been for naught. An amusing scene would be to walk into Tesco pick two cans of corn beef then proceed to haggle at the till. That would definitely make a good sketch for an anti-integration comedy. However, my husband has taught me a good use for my skill. Shop online, use comparison sites to get good bargains, to further increase the bargain search for vouchers/ coupons and Voi la! I still uphold the hagglers’ creed.

In the US, I believe the use of coupons is common place and worth more for a haggler. From what I gather they are good at helping families budget and maximize their incomes. They are acquired from magazines, newspapers and online some can be used several times over. It is also advisable where ever you live to shop in bulk and get frozen foods as well rather than fresh. Cashing in on sales especially when shopping for children’s items is ideal as they often wreck whatever you buy within a short period of time it helps to get them. Getting club cards/ bonus point cards from shops also helps, in the long run.

People associate haggling with being skint, this is far from true. No one likes to be taken advantage of and buying things at asking price without doing a comparative survey seems like that to me. Another misconception is that the seller loses out when we haggle, again this is wrong. Traders never go for deals that make them losses.

So if you are a good haggler like me don’t give up yet, just get more computer savvy and surf the net often for good deals. It never hurts to save a little here and there. You can still duplicate your life back home anywhere in the world with less sweat or exhaustion just a lot more planning.


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To write or not to write.

“A choice between two equally unpleasant alternatives (in other words, a dilemma), or two lines of reasoning that lead to the same unpleasant conclusion. It is analogous to the expressions “between the devil and the deep blue sea,” “between a rock and a hard place,” or, as those in the Spanish- and Portuguese-speaking world say, “Between a cross and a sword.” This is the mortons fork.

To write or not to write, to read or not to read. At first i wanted to  sit on the fence but then i decided naaaa, bloggers are allowed to be diplomatic but not allowed to be indecisive. My choice, i will write and not read. You see when you write people reply either by sharing, liking or commenting. From their feedbacks you can learn and garner information. Some posts can be posed as opinion polls which ends up bringing desired information to you.

Writing ensures my views are heard first, meaning am in charge. Creating the action rather than reacting. Essentially am at the helm of my own affairs.

So there you have my answer.

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The Mayor on Jihadist

Source: By: Philip Gerald

The tension caused by religious/extremist linked activities globally is at an all time high. I expected leaders to be careful not to encourage a further upsurge of these activities. They should not sleek away in fear or stay silent. Rather strategic plans on how best to deal with the problem from the grass roots should be addressed. Verbal abuse or the use of colourful language should be strictly avoided when confronting the issue. Diplomacy is vital.

The words of the London Mayor describing the jihadist is nothing short of lighting a flame beside a petrol tank. I am not a fan of extrimist activities  but his remarks in my opinion went off the mark. It became a personality attack.

The London Mayor says the terrorists are “tortured” men who are “rejected by women” and are “in desperate need of self-esteem”. Citing an MI5 report into Muslim extremism, London’s Mayor told The Sun newspaper: “If you look at all the psychological profiling about bombers, they typically will look at porn. They are literally w***ers. Severe onanists.”They are tortured. They will be very badly adjusted in their relations with women, and that is a symptom of their feeling of being failures and that the world is against them.” They are rejected by women, they are not making it with girls, and so they turn to other forms of spiritual comfort – which of course is no comfort.” He later told Sky News: “Certainly, the young men who get involved in this kind of thing do have a lot of problems in their lives.” Source:

Some of his remarks can be considered as inflammatory. Understanding an individuals profile is vital to dealing with them appropriately, brandishing said profile  with colourful language definitely does not improve relationships or successful outcomes. According to the Islamic supreme council of America,”The Arabic word “jihad” is often translated as “holy war,” but in a purely linguistic sense, the word ” jihad” means struggling or striving.The arabic word for war is: “al-harb”. In a religious sense, as described by the Quran and teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (s), “jihad” has many meanings. It can refer to internal as well as external efforts to be a good Muslims or believer, as well as working to inform people about the faith of Islam”.

They go on to explain what Jihad is not: It is not a violent concept neither should it be a declaration of war against other religions. According to them the Koran specifically refers to Jews and Christians as “people of the book” who should be protected and respected. All three faiths worship the same God. Allah is just the Arabic word for God, and is used by Christian Arabs as well as Muslims.Military action in the name of Islam has not been common in the history of Islam. Scholars says most calls for violent jihad are not sanctioned by Islam. It is believed that the Prophet engaged in military action on certain occasions, but they were battles for survival, rather than conquest, and occurred  when fighting between tribes was common.

Going by the above explanations the mayors words has lumped both the extremist and the regular Muslim as one. This is wrong, especially when the most power tool for effectively addressing the extremist actions lies in the hands of genuine Muslims. They understand the right way of practicing Islam and understanding is very important to laying an appropriate strategy to curb the radicalization of their members. Its also easier for an insider to trace the history and off shoots of the problems. Its one thing for a stranger to say stop and another for a family member to say so. When it comes from within your group it carries more weight because you know its non judgemental rather a balanced call to stop erring. The place of trust can’t be overemphasised.

Our leaders must practice diplomacy, or else stand the chance of losing their authority to settle disputes.


Charlie Hebdo. A Seven Year Old’s Reaction.

An interesting and thought provoking post. Begs the question was it really about the drawing? Answer: no, it was just an excuse to unleash mayhem. However is free speech an excuse to offend? NO Life requires balanced perspectives at all times.

The Daily Think

I didn’t get to switch the radio off in time this morning. She heard, and understood (it seems). This was her response. charlie Hebdo

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