Loose tongues

precious heirlooms safely stowed

from looters. A sip, a kiss, the tongue comes undone

alas! it held no secret.

A french 19th century spelter jewel box, a Japanese lacquer box and a metal and wooden jewel box made by the Tuareg people
Copyright TJ Paris

 In the multitude of words sin is not lacking,

But he who restrains his lips is wise.

Proverbs 10:19 New King James Version (NKJV)

When something upsets me I tend to get either very quiet or very verbose. I have discovered that when I go quite it’s either because I’m not sure of my footing in that circumstance .i.e I don’t really know what my rights are. And when I become verbose I often get blinded to other people’s right and opinion. This week I think I fell victim to the latter, I don’t really regret it, however, in hindsight I perhaps went a little overboard. I don’t want to speak too much or too little, I just want to say and do things aptly, in the right amount.

I have a few question for you guys especially those who work in close confines with their clients e.g. doctors, nurses, social workers etc.:

  • How do you maintain a professional outlook and is it important to do so?
  • Does becoming involved in a clients life impair your ability to point out areas of worry or conflict?
  • How do you maintain the balance when your job to an extent requires raising awareness which often requires some level of socialization?

Feel free to contribute even if you work in a different field.

I really would love some answers.

Thank you in advance.

Haiku written for TJ Paris haiku challenge – Jewelry box.

A to Z challenge word of the day- Talkative.

11 thoughts on “Loose tongues

  1. I can tell you from a patients side, having a doctor, psychiatric nurse, etc. Keep professional makes me more comfortable. In the sense of a patient too, you have to be professional in advocating for yourself but doing so with a sense of decorum. People respect you more if you’re focused and calm (if you’re able to be). Same goes with Doctors and many jobs, we want to hear your opinion, the one you’ve the education and experience to know, but we don’t need you to not become so emotionally wrapped up in our problems/case that you can’t give us both sides of an argument to take a certain medication or not for instance. Your personal opinion is valuable but their needs to be a distance, even though you may after time be friends with a patient, in a manner of speaking.

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  2. This is one of the hardest things to balance. It is very difficult if you are naturally a friendly caring person, to manage the need to remain professionally separated from those you work with or your clients if you are in a role that requires you to give confronting or challenging professional advice. I suppose I have managed to maintain my professional relationships by reasoning that if I become more of a friend or highly emotionally involved rather than a professional adviser then I may not be able to bring myself to give the right advice when needed and this is not the best outcome for the client. Once my professional relationship is over and there aere later social meetings then friendship is fine. But that is just me. Very interesting questions.

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