Where we got it wrong … African mothers and daughters. Pt 2

Hi everyone, welcome to the second part of this write-up. This is by no means the fact concerning all mothers neither are they recommendations to live by; just my musings on certain ideologies deeply entrenched in the society where I grew up. So let’s carry on from where we stopped last time and if you missed the first part do click on the link to catch-up.

Myth number two continued:

I will admit that prior to writing this I assumed the husband served as a priest over his household. In societies opinion this means they represent the family before God and bear the buck on prayer. I assume this theory to be based on two main scriptures: the first one is from Genesis where  God refers to the woman as man’s “help-mate”. For some reason this has been translated to mean man’s subordinate, the weaker sex; however by definition neither the word help nor mate conveys the idea of someone who is weaker or lesser in status. People seek help from individuals they believe to possess something they don’t have or individuals who complement them in an area  of weakness. The word mate on the other hand  is formally defined as a sexual partner. It also refers to someone involved in the same activity or living in the same space with you. Informally it is often used to refer to a friend or an equal partner. Both words by definition makes no reference to a weaker or subordinate individual. 

Two as one

The second scripture can be found in  Ephesians chapter five, it mandates husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church.” Christ as our high priest represents us before God, thus the man is expected to act as a priest over his family. But if we read further into the scripture we find that the essence of the mandate was to encourage husbands to act towards their wives as Christ acted towards the church; loving them wholly. And when you read the scriptures below  

  1 Peter 2:5 you also, as living stones, are being built up as a spiritual house for a holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.

1 Peter 2:9 But you are A CHOSEN RACE, A royal PRIESTHOOD, A HOLY NATION, A PEOPLE FOR God’s OWN POSSESSION, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who has called you out of darkness into His marvellous light.

I think it would be safe to imply that the duties of a priest falls on both partners. Both under God through Jesus are required to jointly bring the family to God. Prior to marriage I assume both partners listened to God, it’s only expected that for that marriage to succeed both must continue to listen to Him as one. It’s important to remember that prayer builds our individual relationship with God, thus it should not be left in another’s hand unless we do not value that relationship.

P.S I do agree that the man should lead his home but it should be done from a place of love; and as we know true love liberates, elevates and gets tough on us when we become lazy. To explain my reasons I would have to do another post.

Myth number three

It is your duty to keep him interested … hmmmm


Need I say more? 

To be continued from here  ….

We all have room to learn something new, but if you keep your thoughts in then  …..

Don’t keep your thoughts in share them.


3 thoughts on “Where we got it wrong … African mothers and daughters. Pt 2

  1. Very true. One argument is that a woman is made from a man’s rib and thus is subject to him. i found in the scriptures that God made male and female at once and blessed them equally. it was Adam that was created separately and only Eve was taken out of Adam. When man sinned, God cursed the woman and said that her husband will rule over her… But the curses of Genesis were all lifted at Christ’s death. I simply believe that the leadership of the man in the home is for the purpose of order (Because God is not disorderly). It doesnt make the woman any less than her husband. The sooner all parties to a relationship begin to take positive advantage of each other’s strenghts, and not supress them, the better.

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    1. Oh my dear, this was beautifully written. I concur God designed this for the pupose of order and structure.
      I knew there was a reason we became friends.
      love you plenty and it’s honor that you feel my words worthy of reblogging.


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